Artist Feature: Meshell Ndegeocello

Featured on this Monday's, "Never Heard Before" on the Metro FM morning drive show with a new single from her latest offering: Meshell Ndegeochello.

This is 1 artist I have not listened to in years and you can only imagine my excitement when my voice recognition was met with positive confirmation from the DJ's! WoW! What a soul!!!

Famously known to us through her single, "Fool of Me"
Meshell is an American singer-songwriter, rapper, bassist, and vocalist. Her music incorporates a wide variety of influences, including funk, soul, hip hop, reggae, R&B, rock, and jazz. She has has had ten career Grammy Award nominations.

Do give her a listen You will not be disappointed!

Daily Find

How cool? Folding Aviator! We love it.

Mens Brogues

Since last year there has been a hype over female brogues, but no 1 ever emphasised to men that we love us a man in a brogue too!

Navy Brogue from Zoom

Brown Suede Leather Brogue from Trenery

Tan Leather Brogue from Zara

So next time you go shopping, remember...a Brogue is an essential part of any man's wardrobe *wink*

Candy Drops

Yesterday I went on the prawl for the perfect candy drops.Sweet, fruity scent that screams nothing but candy.And as you can imagine, this was not my first choice. Can we not be too obvious? But it screamed; and of course, it did not disappoint!

Prada Candy, Screams Candy

Fashion vs Style

Fashion is a trend; Style on the other hand....that is the differentiating factor! It is often confused with vanity. To the contrary, style symbolises confidence in one self. Its a silent statement that you make to the world. Your style speaks for you before you even open your mouth. Therefore, find your axis, unlock your individual style, make sure you're sending the right  message to the world.

#Friends in Fashion

Iconic Moments

When Great Minds Collaborate; Iconic Moments are Captured! Beautiful pictures of some of our greatest captured during a moment in time:

Bob Marley, Mick Jagger and Peter Tosh

 Bernard Arnault, The Olsen Sisters, Amy Winehouse, Karl Lagerfeld

George Harrison and Bob Marley 

Madonna, Sting and 2Pac

The Beatles and Mohammad Ali

Steve Jobs and Bill Gates

Jimi Hendrix and Eric Clapton

Arnold Shwarznegger and Mohammad Ali

Inspiration

#Monday #Inspiration #Beautiful Week Everyone

The Universe is Patriarchal by Nature

For the longest time I have struggled with a woman's role in society; and recently i have come to a conclusion that "Women need to find their place in the world post patriarchy". We border on extremes, hence the term, "career woman" that we find being thrown around. Based on how people define this "career woman" I do not think it is to be carried with pride!


Anyway, i came across the article below. A young man's views on partriarchy and why family structure and women's positions made sense under this regime. Interesting read worth your minutes.


Enjoy ;)


The Universe is Patriarchal by Nature


Laws exist everywhere; you don't have to believe in them for them to apply to you. Even gravity is not acknowledged by all, but it's indiscriminate in its effects. The main purpose of structure is to bring upon order and stability; unfortunately the unintended consequence of regulation is abuse. Those entrusted with authority to implement rules tend to use their power to oppress their subjects.


Hierarchy exists everywhere in nature and it's a pyramid-shaped structure with the proverbial alpha male at the pinnacle. Power and responsibility trickles down with every descending level. Humans have more developed brains, emotions and an added dimension of spirit or soul as opposed to animals, hence it ludicrous to suggest we model our lives on those of our non-human counterparts. We have a unique need for self-actualisation, have evolved faster than all other creatures and instinct is a secondary tool we use in decision-making. We do, however, not live in isolation and still carry genes of our primate ancestors.


Men and women are not the same, equal or comparable. Each gender is equipped with skills, abilities and talents to perform varying tasks within society and in a household,  presumably assigned by the Universe or whoever/whatever you deem to be the creator. Everyone has a role to play and none is more important than the other. Men have always held positions of prominence with exception of few societies where there have been females rulers. Nothing in history of mankind suggests that things were any different prior to establishment of patriarchy. There's no evidence to suggest men consciously engineered society to favour them. What we can see, however, is why men could not have actively opposed the status quo.


The bulk of the reason society looks to be falling apart is because men generally abused their power, oppressed their subjects and neglected their responsibility, hence we live in a fatherless society and boys grow up without positive role models to look up to. Changing the whole societal structure to correct this one ill is not a solution and women aspiring to be like men further perpetuate what has already gone wrong. Of course, very few women find themselves in those positions out of choice. It's still fashionable to be a woman and feminine, we just need to bring those men that make all males look bad in track and appreciate patriarchy.


Equality is not a concept I fully comprehend, however I have never understood it to mean similarity. I am convinced it's disastrous to encourage women to perform male duties. Allow me to entertain your hypocrisy in pretending not to know what constitutes a male masculine task. I have already mentioned the ills visited upon society as a result of men neglecting their parental responsibilities, would you like me to proceed to waste time arguing about the practicality of employing a male helper and/or a female gardener? I have no doubt someone out there is doing it, that's how irrational society has become.


If how gender roles have been defined throughout history is what's accepted as patriarchy, then it is not an evil system. I refrain from basing my argument on a dictionary definition of the concept, but on practical uses thereof and its connotations. I'm of the view that this approach saves us from getting bogged down with semantics and carry on debating core issues.


Acknowledging traditional gender roles is not an act of oppression of women by men, thinking men are superior to women is. To a discerning mind, the distinction is crystal clear. Men have traditional roles of leadership in society and in households, but democracy makes it acceptable for women to assume these roles in organisations that subscribe to such principles and I have had lots of females leading me; not even once have I resisted direction on the basis of gender. We have a duty to abide by our constitution and I too subject myself to its authority. I am, however, of the opinion that as far as it does not contradict the constitution and/or infringe on anyone's human rights, men should assume positions of leadership and responsibility of protecting their subjects.


It is when we truly understand that submitting to leadership is not a sign of weakness or inferiority that we cease being slaves to victim mentality. Those in positions of power we have to keep responsible for their conduct instead of making noise in the streets and calling them names for going astray. I am yet to meet a woman that wants a sheepish man; one that's not proactive, fails to take charge and stand for what he believes in; no child wants such a father either. A man that acts like a security guard and exercises his power unnecessarily is unattractive either.


Maybe I don't know what patriarchy is because the world as I see it is one wherein men have vision and women follow, in support and nurturing their men's goals. That's the world I would be at ease bringing a child into, knowing she would know her gender is at the core of her identity and she has responsibility to act in a manner that glorifies the essence of who she is as opposed to betraying values that give worth to her whole being.


When a man knows how to address a woman in a manner that honours her and a woman submits herself to her man in thought, words and deeds, we would be conscientised of how well the order we have unfortunately christened patriarchy works.


Article by Nyakallo Lephotho

Jackie Burger's Style Diary

A fashion feature worth following this week. Jackie Burger, Elle Magazine editor, and style icon will be sharing her work wardrobe with us for the next week. Do check it out;
http://www.elle.co.za/style-diary-%e2%80%93-jackie-burger/

New Feature: "SPOTTED"

"SPOTTED" is a new weekly feature on CandyScreams. It features you, the follower's daily life. Spot it! Like it? Screams Candy? take a picture and send it to us at lesego.motene@gmail.com 

We like it, we post it! That easy!

Lets gooooooooooo

SPOTTED

Guess who was spotted in the Eastern Cape this weekend ! The Sassy Lady herself... KaY*

Looking pretty and delicate in a cream white lace dress. So NOW!!!

We love the black sheer pantihose. Not everyday is a matt pantihose day so do add a bit of sparkle to your outfit.

African Beauty! Bold Prints, popping colours. CandyScreams*

Anticipated

YES!!!! We are totally excited about Nas' next project, dropping in July 2012. Album, titled: Life is good. The first single, "Daughters", dropped this past weekend.

It speaks about the reality of being a father to young girls, especially during this Facebook and Twitter era. The mistakes and regrets! Worth your listen. And yeh, keep your ears to the ground, The Don is back!


So excited!!!!!

Dear 18 year old South Africa; Who Are You?

27 April 1994; a monumental day for our country. A day when South Africans were given the freedom to vote. The first national elections in South Africa which did not depend on race.

18 years later, as tradition gives, I find myself slouched on the couch watching the Freedom Day celebration at the union buildings on SABC 2. During the interviews, one 18 year old girl was asked, “Do you know what freedom day is?” THIXO!!!!! I knew she was a bad pick the moment she snapped her tongue when opening her mouth to respond! Her response had my skin crawling!

Very confident with a high pitched voice she responded, “Freedom day is the day when everybody comes to the union buildings to see the President and enjoy” *REALLY!?* o_O 

18 years later, South Africa; is this is who we are? What we have become? After all the rage and embarrassment from this young lady’s response and many others that followed; only one question resonated in my head, “who are you?” You can rage all u want, but, what are you doing to change the current state of affairs in SA. It is also important that we interrogate ourselves as a country and try to find the answers to the questions, "Why/How did we get here?".

Knowledge is power! Next time you sit down with your younger sister, brother, niece, friends, elder. Do spark a debate regarding our history, impart knowledge, learn! Let us help young South Africa to know who they are! After all, they are your reflection; we have made this 18 years of Freedom what it is!

IGNORANT!

On a lighter note, my Freedom Day celebrations saw me heading to the highest court in the land, the Constitutional Court of South Africa, Johannesburg.

This place marks a very important time in our history. Worth visiting, the lessons are far greater. Knowledge is power.

Azanian Princess